The things people say!

So, in the past 2.5 years Josh and I have gotten a lot of comments from people and tons of questions. In most cases they don't bother us much. There is always a part of us that plans for quick trips to the store to take much longer than expected because people will stop us. It has gotten better, but we occassionally still have some people stop us. Here are some of the things people ask/say to us just because we have triplets.

THE LEAST OFFENSIVE
*"Are those two twins" (usually referring to the boys)? or "Oh twins!"

*"Triplets! Oh my goodness!" and other such versions of this expression.

*"Did you do fertility?" Josh and I have had a VERY open answer to this all along. We're not afraid to talk about the problems we endured. We wish that when we were going through it that someone would have been able to say, "hey, I've been there". No matter what our friends and family said to us, it only helped so much because they truly didn't know what was going on. So, we tell them that I have POS and that we had a little bit of help.

*"Did you do invitro?" Nope, honestly people think that we either had no help or invitro. There is A LOT inbetween.

THE FUNNY
*"Are they natural?" This used to be a very hard question for me to answer (because of above reasons). Lately, I've found that my quick and simple answer seems to turn people away rather quickly. I say, "Yes, we had sex!" :) Men find it halarious, their wives...not so much!

*"How close are they in age?" My simple answer..."about a minute". They always do a double take, like oh, okay....hey wait a minute.....

THE ONES THAT MAKE MY DAY
*Any comments about how well behaved or beautiful or happy my children are thrills me!

*"God Bless You" I always thank them and reassure that we are truly blessed!

THE SLIGHTLY ANNOYING
*"How do you do it?" I do it just like any other mom out there. Whether you have one or three or more, you just do it. We've always changed three diapers, made three bottles, rocked three babies to sleep, loaded three into the car, etc.

*"Is it hard?" I don't think so. I mean, sure, there are days that are difficult, but don't all parents have those days? Just because I have 3 the same age doesn't mean that my life is so much harder.

*"You must have your hands full." I sure do! My hands are full of three great kids to hug and kiss and hold. I'm just blessed enough to have enough babies to completley fill my arms!

THE RUDE - the following comments will get you nowhere...quickly!

* "Triplets!?!?! I feel sorry for you!" - Do NOT feel sorry for me! I don't and have never felt sorry for myself! I consider my children a blessing. I went through a lot to get them and it's all 100% worth it. (Side note: To the man who said this to me exactly a year ago as he was walking along with his 4 children. I feel sorry for your children that they have to experience their father saying to another person that he feels sorry for them having several children. Children are a blessing and a treasure from above! Under no circumstances would I ever feel bad for having my beautiful children. And honestly, if I couldn't handle it, I wouldn't have been pushing them around in a stroller at the Lenawee County Fair!)

* The following is a converstation that I had with a man at McDonalds. Previous to this conversation, I had apologized for Aiden running in front of him as he was carrying his tray. I explained that he was only 2 and wasn't completely aware of his surroundings and getting in other peoples space. He said it was no problem, that he had several grandchildren and understood. So, off to our seats and we happened to sit at nearby booths...

man - "Do they all have the same birthday?"

me - "yes"

man - "Well, how'd that happen?"

me - "they're triplets."

man - "well I know that buy how'd it happen?"

me - "we had some help"

man - "Well, I just wanted to thank you for having white babies!....."

me - nothing....I turned my back and tuned him out! I thought it was completely rude and honestly, I was so thrown off by the comment that I didn't/couldn't respond.

How can someone thank another person for having WHITE babies????? I told Josh about it later and he said it would have been funny if I would have walked up to any man of non-white color and said, "Hi honey." :)

I'm sure there are always going to be the people who stop, stare, and ask questions of make comments. It makes life interesting for us. Besides, when you are carting around three children who are the same size in a triplet jogger stroller or a choo choo wagon with 3-4 seats, you are bound to attract attention. It's just a part of our lives.